How to Use Lovense for Long Distance Sex (Guide)

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, don’t think that intimacy will be deterred by the distance. There are many ways couples can keep their passion alive, even from afar.

It all comes down to finding a system that works for you and your partner. Here comes the fun part, experimenting with couple play!

So, what are some long-distance couple play activities?

There are so many options you can explore together. You can use Lovense Bluetooth-controlled toys to pleasure one another – even when you aren’t in the same room! Some toys can even interact with each other.

Explore the options available on the market today, and get to pleasuring one another now!

The compiled list of steps that you need to take and what options are available are listed below. Technology has come a long way, and the options are very promising for keeping the passion alive, even when you two are apart.

You won’t be able to wait until your partner is gone to try some of these out! So, take a gander and try some out for yourself.


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Long-Distance Sex is Possible

The thought may seem odd since you assume sex can only be done when people are present in the room. However, there is a way you both can be present in the room, even when you are not physically together.

Lovense sex toys can be used by both parties to sync up, along with other options like video chat and recordings to make the experience so much better. So, don’t fret at the thought that your partner is going away for a few weeks or even years if they are in the military.

There are ways to keep the intimacy alive. They might even be so good that you’ll want them to go away just so you can use these tools! Their software is always privacy protected, so don’t worry about your conversations leaking.

It’s a simple process of setting up the toys and chats via an Internet connection to allow you both to interact simultaneously.

Also, make sure your partner is aware you’re going to connect! It may sound like common sense, but you don’t want to scare or surprise your partner when they aren’t expecting an “intimate” moment with you.

You can even use the video chats as foreplay to get you both ready for the Lovense toys and more sex play.

If the Lovense video links don’t work, you can always use another platform like Skype to be able to play around and tease your partner. Plus, you both have complete control of both toys. So you can choose to control their toy, yours, or sync them!

So, let’s get you guys set up with some long-distance sex toys!

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Step-By-Step Guide

Buy the Necessary Equipment

First things first, you need the right toys and set-up to get things moving in the right direction. Lovense offers two sex toys for what you’d like to do with your partner.

There is the Nora, which is the female sex toy that hooks up to the Max / Max 2. These toys work simultaneous with one another to simulate the two of you having sex at that moment.

Bonus for the same-sex or adventurous couples out there! You can pair two Max 2’s or two Nora’s together and have fun with one another at the same time, too. The same rules apply for two of the same toys as it does for one of each.

It’s a win-win for everybody!


Download the Right Apps

You can have complete control of your partner’s toy and your toy depending on what gets you off. To do that, you need to download the right apps to your phone, tablet or computer.

First, you need to download the Lovense Remote App, which can be found on the android or apple store. It can also be downloaded onto a desktop, Mac or PC.

Next, you’ll want to download the Lovense video chat app or another video sharing app like Skype to be able to chat and tease your partner. You can even sync music from your computer or phone so that your partner’s toy vibrates in a certain way.

If you have a Premium account with Lovense, you can use Spotify with your toys, too!

Sync Up Your Toys

Once you have the apps and sex toys, you can then sync them up to your Lovense remote. You simply have to search for your toy on the app and connect it via Bluetooth once it’s found!

After you’ve paired your toys, you can always get to them through the app whenever you want to use it. This gives you the power to control yours and your partner’s toy.

The app also gives you the power to pair music, your video recordings and chat with the toys as well. This will help keep the toy play interesting and novel every time you two pair up! Plus, the app also has links to cam models, if you want to add that into your play or just want to watch while you both get each other off. Up to you!

Have Fun!

Once your toys are all synced up and you’ve both agreed to a time to do “the deed”, you can just have fun!

Explore all the settings, functions and options when playing with your partner. Take turns controlling the toys or get hot-n-heavy right from the start! There is no right or wrong way to tease and excite each other, so enjoy yourselves.

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There are certain requirements you need when you decide to dive into the world of sex toys.

  1. The first requirement is lube, and don’t you forget it! Lovense offers a lubricant at a discounted price with every toy purchase! It will make the toys feel better and will be closer to actual sex. You don’t need any friction burns or discomfort ruining your sexy plans.
  2. You also need an Internet connection. Everything is connected wirelessly, so you won’t have much luck if you don’t have the Internet. Luckily, most hotels have wireless included in the room price. Some phone providers have also offered wireless hotspots that allow you to access your own wireless from wherever you are.
  3. You’ll need an outlet to charge all your electronics. The one downside of the advancements in technology is that many survive on electrical charges. So, you won’t be a happy camper if you don’t have access to an outlet or charging port of some kind. Again, most hotels will have these for you, but that may be harder for those out of the country.
  4. The most important thing is being open to trying new things and communicate openly with your partner. Let them know what feels good – and what doesn’t. It probably sounds like a broken record to all those relationship gurus out there promoting communication, but it really is important. These toys should make your time apart more fun, rather than disappointing or unwanted.
  5. Lastly, you’ll need to experiment. You won’t find your perfect rhythm or even what feels good on the first try unless you’re incredibly lucky! The Lovense remote app gives you control of the vibrations, patterns and whatever you need to sync your or your partner’s toy. With so many possibilities, it’ll take a few tries before you find the right rhythm for you.

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Best Toys for Couple’s Play

We’ve already covered the Nora and Max/Max 2 as the ideal synced toys to have an interactive play with your partner. There are other products you can also use during couple’s play if you want, or even other options besides the Nora or Max / Max 2.

Check out some of the options below!

Lush 2

Lush 2 is a vibrator that can both be inserted or used for external stimulation. It can be used alone or controlled from a distance by your partner, such as a panty vibrator.

It’s Bluetooth-connected, so you or your partner can control it from anywhere. You can also use it on top of using a Max or Nora for additional stimulation.


Hush is the first Bluetooth-controlled butt plug you or your partner can control from anywhere. It can be used for solo play or additional stimulation, when paired with another Lovense sex toy.

It also has one of the largest batteries compared to other butt plugs out there. So, you’ll be getting the most intense vibrations on the market!


Ambi is a clitoral vibrator that works like a bullet vibrator. It has a more-rounded shape with a sharper point on one end, unlike the universal shape of a bullet vibrator. Its shape caters to what kind of stimulation you desire, based on what side of the device you use.

You can use it on your own or with another Lovense sex toy for a more intense orgasm.


Edge is a Lovense Bluetooth sex toy designed to stimulate the prostate for men from a distance for their solo play or couple play. Similar to the toys above, your man can add the Edge in when using the Max / Max2 for additional stimulation.

It can either be used around the anus or inserted, depending on their preference. Men need to find their P-spots, too!


Domi is a “mini-wand” that has a reinforced neck to allow for pressure to be applied anywhere. There is also male and female attachments you can get along with it to alter how powerful each vibration feels.

These can be used alongside other toys or on its own, if you want. It is also Bluetooth-enabled for complete control for yourself or your partner.


Osci is the first sex toy designed to hit your G-spot by having the head move in and out rather than vibrate. It’s a weird thing to watch, but will most likely feel awesome inserted. This can be used on its own, paired with a butt plug, or used with an external vibrator for your additional pleasure.

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Live Control

It has been mentioned earlier in this article that you can have live control of your partner’s toy with your app or your synced Lovense sex toy. This is one of the main features in recreating sex with your partner, even when they are far away. It will help you both feel closer and like they are in the room with you.

It can also heighten the intimacy between the two of you when you know you are driving your partner wild with what you are doing to them – and for them!

That is usually part of why having sex can feel so good! So, the Lovense toys create that enjoyment and can even give you the visual of your part through their cam model or Skype.

Live control can also help let you know how your partner is feeling, what’s working’ and what needs to be tweaked. It can be hard to tell what they’re really thinking by voice alone, so the added video can help really know how they feel.

Plus, their steamy gaze can help get you off, too. If your toys are synced, you can also see what they are doing with you.

Sync Feature

The sync feature between Nora and Max / Max 2 allows for you or your partner to control what the other is feeling.

When the toys are synced, and you move it a certain way, the coinciding toy will react and allow your partner to feel what you are doing to them. This can really give the illusion that you two are having sex with one another in real-time.

The sync feature for the toy and your phone also gives you a level of control. If you or your partner gets off on knowing they’re driving you wild and can control your reactions by a mere button push, these toys will satiate that urge. Plus, your partner can be discreet in public – while you are writhing in ecstasy, or visa versa.

You both can use these toys in the privacy of your own home, as well. The multiple uses that come with these devices mean that you can also use them when you and your partner are together, too.

This will give you a whole other world of exploration into your desires that you both can enjoy together.

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How do you take care of your sex toys when you aren’t using them?

Many can be washed with water and soap, and most are completely waterproof! Only the Max / Max 2 and Dormi cannot be fully submerged and should be washed carefully. All the other sex toys talked about above can be used in water, which means bath time can be fun, too!

Your sex toys are electrically charged, so you’ll have USB cords you can use to charge your toys to keep them working optimally.

A toy may stop working or only give you half the time with your partner if you don’t maintain the battery. If your cord stops charging your device, you can always contact support to get a replacement within the first year of purchase.

If you have any further questions about maintaining your various Lovense products, they provide user guides for all of them online for your convenience. How many times have you tossed a manual out thinking you’d never need it – until you do? Lovense has got your back, and their support is just a call or virtual chat away!

What if They Don’t Work?

So, you have your toys, Internet access, and a video call going but your toy isn’t working. It can be a disappointing situation for anyone ready to play. But, never fear!

Lovense offers a one year warranty on their products. So if you unpack your toy and notice any immediate defects or it won’t charge, etc., you can put in a return claim and get a replacement.

Lovense offers great information and support on their website for all their products. Feel free to go there for information on how to get a return, and what policies they have on returns. Such as, they won’t honor a return if it broke down doing its intended purpose. Wear and tear are not covered by the warranty.

Also, make sure any intended area the toys will be exposed to are free from rashes, irritation, and swelling. That will be a rude awakening and possibly painful. Lovense states that they pride themselves on the quality of their products, and want to make sure you are safe with them.

Use Lovense for Long Distance Sex: In Summary

We’ve talked about how to use Lovense products for long-distance couple play with your partner.

You have an assortment of choices, depending on your preference and what sounds good to both of you. You can always contact support or check out the Lovense website if your toys stop working or you need some help setting up the app.

Whether you want to sync the toys to play together or be in control of the other’s pleasure, the choice is yours.


Written by William LeClair

The LovenseFAN Team led by William LeClair is an unofficial collective of experts and power users, each deeply immersed in the world of Lovense products. With combined experiences including working with leading SexTech companies, following the success of Lovense since the very first Indiegogo campaign and years of hands-on use, the team offers a comprehensive understanding of the company's mission and products. Dive into their insights and guides to explore the multifaceted world of Lovense and discover the future of Sex.

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