William LeClair
Sex toys are not just for the couple that sleeps next to each other every night or the ones that just want to spice things up in the boudoir department. Couples that are physically separated by miles or even continents – either in a relationship or those that just want to play – are finding sex toys to be a great way for them to connect.
Voice and video can only provide some of the physical needs and may limit the pleasure, depending on the service used.
The toys on this list have been hand-selected from the huge variety of sex toys available on the market today for one important reason: they have proven to help couples of all types connect across great distances.
These toys offer a wide range of options, including solo options via pre-programmed stimulation, app-controlled vibrations, and even interactive, responsive experiences – the closest thing to being sexually intimate with a partner when you are not in the same space.
What is Teledildonics?
Teledildonics is a trendy term for the type of sex toys that use some type of wireless technology, usually Bluetooth or Wi-Fi, to connect two people together. Teledildonics is not only the interactive toy itself, but also those toys that can be controlled from a distance.
Each of the toys on this list offers long distance play partners of all types a way to experience discreet virtual sex, with almost no risk.
Comparison Table
| Name | Style | Waterproof? | Interactive? | Wearable? | Functions | Price |
| Lovense Nora | Rabbit | — | — | 21+ | Check Price | |
| Lovense Max/Max 2 | Male Masturbator | — | — | 21+ | Check Price | |
| Lovense Lush 2 | Egg | ∞ | Check Price | |||
| Lovense Hush | Anal Plug | ∞ | Check Price | |||
| Kiiroo Onyx 2 | Male Masturbator | — | — | ∞ | $$$ | |
| Kiiroo Pearl 2 | Vibrator | — | — | ∞ | $$ | |
| Fleshlight Launch | Male Masturbator | — | — | ∞ | Not available | |
| OhMiBod Fuse | G-Spot + Clitoral | — | — | ∞ | $$ | |
| Ohmibod Esca 2 | G-Spot + Clitoral | — | — | 6+ | $$ | |
| We-Vibe Sync | G-Spot + Clitoral | — | 12+ | $$ | ||
| Lovense Ambi | Bullet Hammer | — | — | ∞ | Check Price |
The Best Sex Toys for Long Distance Play
One of the hardest parts of being separated from your partner by great distances is the lack of physical intimacy. People are physical by nature and crave touch, in addition to having a basic sexual drive.
Long distance relationships (LDR) often struggle with finding effective ways to show affection and experience some level of intimacy. These sex toys provide a range of options for long distance play, as well as solo play options, too.
1. Lovense Nora and Lovense Max
The powerful partner toys Nora and Max from Lovense offer unique and integrated play possibilities for long distance sex play.
Both can be used for solo play, but have been created to offer a wide range of options for play while connected to the Lovense app using a smartphone, PC, or MAC. Each can be controlled independently or connected together for a truly intimate and integrated experience.
Nora
Nora is a sleek rabbit-style vibrator with more than a few extra perks. The contoured shaft glides easily and comfortably when used to simulate penetrative movements, while the rotating head is sure to find even the most elusive G-spots.
On its own, the Nora features 3 rotation speeds and 7 different vibration options on the clitoral head. Made of certified body-safe materials, Nora is splash-proof (NOT waterproof) and can last up to an amazing 4 HOURS on a single charge. Wowza!
Make sure you use a water-based lubricant to protect the silicone from excess wear or damage.
Max
Max (and the newest version – Max 2) offer the most realistic and customizable options found in a male masturbator. Like all other Lovense toys, the Max features certified body-safe materials. The Max 2 features adjustable air vents that give the user suction control.
The original sleeve offers several ribbed sensations while the vagina sleeve (sold separately) is designed to look and feel like the real deal. No matter which sleeve you choose, the Max provides an extended vibration depth and full 360 degrees of contractions.
What makes the Max and Nora pair unique among long distance sex toys is their integrated programming that allows for virtual sex between partners. This means that each one responds to the other when connected and being used.
For example, if Max is being pumped rapidly, the vibrations and rotations of Nora will respond accordingly and vice versa. It’s as close as you can get to actual sex at a long distance.
Pros:
- Specifically designed for long distance sexual play.
- Powerful and customizable stimulation.
- Both can be used independently for solo play.
- Interactive feedback responsive.
Cons:
- Interactive play may have issues with slow or lagging internet connections or app bugs.
2. Lovense Lush 2 and Lovense Hush
While the Lush 2 and Hush were not necessarily designed to be a couple’s sextoy set, many have suggested they are a match made in heaven.
On this, we absolutely agree. The Lush 2 and Hush combination make a unique pairing, thanks to each being completely unique in the long distance play market, and both offer completely wearable and waterproof fun.
Like any other Lovense creation, they can be used individually for plenty of solo fun, with the Lovense app for some amazing stimulation control, or at long distances over the internet. For the truly adventurous, the Lush 2 and Hush can also be worn together!
Lush 2
Lush 2 is without a doubt the most powerful wearable remote control vibrator around. The unique design allows for more directed vibrations toward the G-spot area, and when added to the Lovense app, you can experience an unlimited number of patterned vibrations or take a chance on music or sound-activated vibrations.
Depending on your favorite music, you could even get lost in orgasm heaven before the first chorus is over.
Hush
Hush is the first and reigning champ of the teledildonics-driven butt plugs. Not only does Hush offer all of the same stimulant options of its partner-in-sensations, Lush 2, but the unique design also allows for discreet and dependable wearability that’s made to hit all the right spots on both a male or female anal anatomy, including the prostate and perineum .
Hush is also available in two different diameters, though for beginners to anal play we’d suggest the smaller size.
Pros:
- Wearable.
- Whisper-quiet when in place.
- Discreet, can be worn almost invisibly.
- Powerful and directed vibrations.
Cons:
- Not feedback-responsive.
- No direct connection between toys.
3. Kiiroo Pearl 2 and Kiiroo Onyx 2
This second-generation duo from Kiiroo brings together real-time long distance virtual sex and interactive pleasure in a wide range of unique and exciting ways.
Just like all other toys, each can be used for individual solo play. While the Pearl 2 and Onyx 2 both offer control options for those willing to give that gift to their partner, what sets them apart is their interactive options.
Kiiroo has designed both the Pearl 2 and Onyx 2 as VR-driven sex toys. Each has several options for becoming captivated with virtual content, gaming, and even access to live webcam content. All are designed to give a nearly realistic experience with a partner or on your own with almost unlimited erotic interactive options.
Pearl 2
The Pearl 2 offers a simple yet effective shaft vibrator that’s waterproof – including your own fluids – for when you want some water fun. Designed as a G-spot vibrator, the Pearl 2 features advanced touch-sensitive technology that allows it to respond to your body like no other vibrator.
When paired with any other Kiiroo device – including another Pearl 2 – it responds to the actions and movements of the connected device.
The ability to connect two Pearl 2 vibrators make them perfect for lesbian couples, to use in-person or while apart. In fact, to our knowledge, Kiiroo would be the only lesbian long distance sexual pleasure devices available.
Onyx 2
The Onyx 2 is more than just your standard male masturbator, featuring 10 individually-driven rings that contract to mimic real intercourse. You can control the sensitivity and vibrations through the OhMiBod app or with the onboard touchscreen.
The quietest masturbator available, the Onyx 2 can provide up to 140 strokes per minute with impressive built-in programs to simulate vaginal, anal, or even oral sex. An impressive line of high-quality sleeves can be purchased to make the experience even more customized.
You can even choose from a selection of adult film star designs and pair them with interactive VR digital downloads.
Pros:
- Unique interactive play options.
- Quiet and lightweight.
- Great for long distance lesbian couples.
- Solo, couple, or virtual play.
- Both link with all other Kiiroo toys.
Cons:
- The Pearl 2 has almost no grip, making it difficult to control solo.
- Pearl 2 is not safe for anal penetration (no base design).
4. OhMiBod Fuse and Fleshlight Launch
Both the Fuse and the Launch are the creative result of the pleasurable collaboration between Fleshlight and teledildonics powerhouses, Kiiroo and OhMiBod.
This unique pair provides a wide range of interactive possibilities and can be used together or individually and across any distance; with reliable Internet and the FeelConnect app.
Once connected, the Fuse and Launch interact together to provide a truly unique virtual sexual encounter. Using the app, you can also enjoy sharing virtual content together, as well as music and programmed sessions – which includes preprogrammed and customizable options.
Fuse
OhMiBod designed the Fuse specifically as a partner sex toy for the Launch. Although, thanks to the amazing partnerships between OhMiBod, Fleshlight, and Kiiroo, the Fuse is compatible with a wide range of other sex toys, especially toys geared for long distance pleasure. LED lights built into the Fuse provide immediate visual confirmation of the effect it has on your body.
The Fuse is a dual vibrator similar to rabbit-style vibrators. The main penetrative shaft includes touch-sensitive technology that’s meant to mimic natural stimulation in response to your body and the way you use it.
Use a thrusting motion and the Fuse vibrates stronger as it penetrates deeper, and lessens as it’s withdrawn. The clitoral vibrator works independently and provides direct clitoral stimulation.
Fleshlight Launch
The Launch is designed to mimic penetrative-stroking motions more closely than most other male masturbators. The solo programming can be used without additional manual stroking for a relaxing, pleasurable experience, although most men will not likely climax without manual stroking.
The Launch is also VR-ready and can be connected to several other sex toys for an individualized virtual sexual experience, even if you and your partner are thousands of miles apart.
With a powerful motor that can provide up to 180 strokes per minute in manual mode and the widest range of sensations in both VR and 2D connected modes, the Launch is quickly becoming the go-to for many men.
Pros:
- Interactive VR content, including solo and paired play.
- Both can connect to most other Kiiroo toys, and many others.
- Powerful motors that provide a wide range of customized sensations.
- Immersive virtual sexual experiences that adapt to each individual body – no two are alike.
Cons:
- The biggest drawback to the Fuse/Launch set is the price. Plan to pay about 20% more for this set than other couple’s LDR sets.
5. Ohmibod Esca 2
The Esca 2 may not be specifically paired with its own dance partner, however, it can be connected or synced with many other Kiiroo sex toys for long distance play.
The Esca 2 was designed to provide an intimate, wearable, distance play option. Esca 2 has over 6 built-in functions, including a bright LED light that responds to changes in the programming.
The Esca 2 can be worn completely hands-free, and when paired with the OhMiBod app, control can be given to anyone you dare to trust.
One of our favorite features is the unique “club mode.” Other toys can be synced to music; the Esca 2 can be set to respond to ambient music, as well. Wear it out for a heart-pounding, orgasmic night of music and dancing, if you think you can handle it.
Pros:
- Wireless and han