Sex toys are not just for the couple that sleeps next to each other every night or the ones that just want to spice things up in the boudoir department. Couples, either in a relationship or those that just want to play, that are physically separated by miles or even continents are finding sex toys to be a great way for them to connect.
Voice and video can only provide some of the physical needs and may limit the pleasure, depending on the service used.
The toys on this list have been hand-selected from the variety of sex toys available for one important reason. They have proven to help couples of all types connect across great distances.
These toys offer a wide range of options, including solo options via pre-programmed stimulation, app-controlled vibrations, and even interactive, responsive experiences — the closest thing to being sexually intimate with a partner when you are not in the same space.
What is Teledildonics?
Teledildonics is a trendy term for the type of sex toys that use some type of wireless technology, usually, Bluetooth or Wi-Fi to connect two people together. Teledildonics is not only the interactive toys, but it also refers to toys that can be controlled from a distance.
Each of the toys on this list offers long distance play partners of all types a way to experience virtual sex, with almost no risk.
|Lovense Max/Max 2
|Lovense Lush 2
|Kiiroo Onyx 2
|Kiiroo Pearl 2
|G-Spot + Clitoral
|Ohmibod Esca 2
|G-Spot + Clitoral
|G-Spot + Clitoral
The Best Sex Toys for Long Distance Play
One of the hardest parts of being separated from your partner by great distances is the lack of physical intimacy. People are physical by nature and crave touch, in addition to a basic sexual drive.
Long distance relationships (LDR) often struggle with finding effective ways to show affection and experience some level of intimacy. These sex toys provide a range of options for long distance play, as well as solo play options as well.
1- Lovense Nora and Lovense Max
The powerful partner toys Nora and Max from Lovense offer unique and integrated play possibilities for long distance sex play.
Both can be used for solo play, but have been created to offer a wide range of options for play while connected to the Lovense app using a smartphone, PC, or MAC. Each can be controlled independently or connected together for a truly intimate and integrated experience.
Nora is a sleek Rabbit style vibrator with more than a few extra perks. The contoured shaft glides easily and comfortably when used to simulate penetrative movements, while the rotating head is sure to find even the most elusive G-Spots.
On its own, the Nora features 3 rotation speeds and 7 different vibration option on the clitoral head. Made of certified body-safe materials, Nora is splash-proof (NOT waterproof) and can last up to an amazing 4 HOURS on a single charge. Wowza! Make sure you use a water-based lubricant to protect the silicone from excess wear or damage.
Max (and the newest version – Max 2) offer the most realistic and customizable options found in a male masturbator. Like all other Lovense toys, the Max features certified body-safe materials. The Max 2 features adjustable air vents that give the user suction control.
The original sleeve offers several ribbed sensations while the vagina sleeve (sold separately) is designed to look and feel like the real deal. No matter which sleeve you choose, the Max provides an extended vibration depth and full, 360 degrees of contractions.
What makes the Max and Nora pair unique among long distance sex toys is their integrated programming that allows for virtual sex between partners. This means that each one responds to the other is being used when connected.
For example, if Max is being pumped rapidly, the vibrations and rotations of Nora will respond accordingly and vice versa. It’s as close as you can get to actual sex at a long distance.
- Specifically designed for long distance sexual play
- Powerful and customizable stimulation
- Both can be used independently for solo play
- Interactive feedback responsive
- Interactive play may have issues with slow or lagging internet connections or app bugs
2- Lovense Lush 2 and Lovense Hush
While the Lush 2 and Hush were not necessarily designed to be a couple’s sex toy set, many have suggested they are a match made in heaven.
On this, we absolutely agree. The Lush 2 and Hush combination make a unique pairing thanks to each being completely unique in the long distance play market, and both offer completely wearable and waterproof fun.
Like any other Lovense creation, they can be used individually for plenty of solo fun, with the Lovense app for some amazing stimulation control, or at long distances over the internet. For the truly adventurous, the Lush 2 and Hush can also be worn together!
Lush 2 is the without a doubt the most powerful wearable, remote control vibrator around. The unique design allows for more directed vibrations toward the G-spot area, and when added to the Lovense app, you can experience an unlimited number of patterned vibrations or take a chance on music drive or sound-activated vibrations.
Depending on your favorite music, you could even get lost in orgasm heaven before the first chorus is over.
Hush is the first and reigning champ of the teledildonics driven butt plugs. Not only does Hush offer all of the same stimulant options of its partner-in-sensations, Lush 2, but the unique design also allows for discreet and dependable wear-ability that is made to hit all the right spots on both a male or female anal anatomy, including the prostate and perineum .
Hush is also available in two different diameters, though for beginners to anal play we’d suggest the smaller size.
- Whisper quiet when in place
- Discreet, can be worn almost invisibly
- Powerful and directed vibrations
- Not feedback responsive
- No direct connection between toys
3- Kiiroo Pearl 2 and Kiiroo Onyx 2
The second-generation duo from Kiiroo brings together real-time long distance virtual sex and interactive pleasure in a wide range of unique and exciting ways.
Just like all other toys, each can be used for individual solo play. While the Pearl 2 and Onyx 2 both offer control options for those willing to give that gift to their partner, what sets them apart is their interactive options.
Kiiroo has designed both the Pearl 2 and Onyx 2 as VR-driven sex toys. Each has several options for becoming captivated with virtual content, gaming, and even access to live webcam content. All are designed to give a nearly realistic experience with a partner or on your own with nearly unlimited erotic interactive options.
The Pearl 2 offers a simple yet effective shaft vibrator that is waterproof, for when you want some water fun, including your own fluids. Designed as a G-spot vibrator, the Pearl 2 features advanced touch-sensitive technology that allows it to respond to your body like no other vibrator.
When paired with any other Kiiroo device, including another Pearl 2, it responds to the actions and movements of the connected device.
The ability to connect two Pearl 2 vibrators make them perfect for lesbian couples, to use in-person or while apart. In fact, to our knowledge, Kiiroo would be the only lesbian long distance sexual pleasure devices available.
The Onyx 2 is more than just your standard male masturbator, featuring 10 individually driving rings that contract to mimic real intercourse. You can control the sensitivity and vibrations through the OhMiBod app or with the onboard touchscreen.
The quietest masturbator available, the Onyx 2 can provide up to 140 strokes per minute with impressive built-in programs to simulate vaginal, anal, or even oral sex. An impressive line of high-quality sleeves can be purchased to make the experience even more custom.
You can even choose from a selection of adult film star designs and pair them with interactive VR digital downloads.
- Unique interactive play options
- Quiet and lightweight
- Solo, couple, or virtual play
- Both link with all other Kiiroo toys
- The Pearl 2 has almost no grip making it difficult to control solo
- Pearl 2 is not safe for anal penetration (no base design)
4- OhMiBod Fuse and Fleshlight Launch
Both the Fuse and Launch are the creative combo of the powerhouse Fleshlight line and the collaboration with Kiiroo OhMiBod.
This unique pair provides a wide range of interactive possibilities and can be used together or individually and across any distance; with reliable internet and the FeelConnect app.
Once connected, the Fuse and Launch interact together to provide a truly unique virtual sexual encounter. Using the app, you can also enjoy sharing virtual content together as well as music and programmed sessions; including preprogrammed and customizable options.
OhMiBod designed the Fuse specifically as a partner sex toy for the Launch. Although, thanks to the amazing partnerships between OhMiBod, Fleshlight, and Kiiroo, the Fuse is compatible with a wide range of other sex toys, especially toys geared for long distance pleasure. LED lights built into the Fuse provide immediate visual confirmation of the effect it has on your body.
The Fuse is a dual vibrator similar to Rabbit style vibrators. The main penetrative shaft includes touch-sensitive technology that is meant to mimic natural stimulation in response to your body and the way you use it.
Use a thrusting motion and the Fuse with vibrator stronger as it penetrates deeper, and lessens as it is withdrawn. The clitoral vibrator works independently and provides direct clitoral stimulation.
The Launch is designed to mimic penetration stroking motions more closely than most other male masturbators. The solo programming can be used without additional manual stroking for a relaxing, pleasurable experience, although most men will not likely climax without manual stroking.
The Launch is also VR ready and can be connected to several other sex toys for an individualized virtual sexual experience even if you and your partner are thousands of miles apart.
With a powerful motor that can provide up to 180 strokes per minute in manual mode and the widest range of sensations in both VR and 2D connected modes, the Launch is quickly becoming the go-to for many men.
- Interactive VR content, including solo and, paired
- Both can connect to most other Kiiroo toys, and many others
- Powerful motors that provide a wide range of customized sensations
- Immersive virtual sexual experiences that adapt to each individual body, no two are alike
- The biggest drawback to the Fuse/Launch set is the price, plan to pay about 20% more for this set than other couple’s LDR sets.
5- Ohmibod Esca 2
The Esca 2 may not be specifically paired with its own dance partner, however, it can be connected or synced with many of the Kiiroo sex toys for long distance play.
The Esca 2 was designed to provide an intimate, wearable, distance play option. Esca has over 6 built-in functions including a bright LED light that responds to changes in the programming.
The Esca 2 can be worn completely hands-free, and when paired with the OhMiBod app, control can be given to anyone you dare to trust.
One of our favorite features is the unique “club mode.” Other toys can be synced to music; the Esca 2 can be set to respond to ambient music as well. Wear it out for a heart-pounding, orgasmic night of music and dancing, if you think you can handle it.
- Wireless and hands-free operation
- Multi-function vaginal vibrator
- Unlimited possibilities with OhMiBod app
- NOT waterproof
- Limited features as a solo toy, without the app
Couples interested in a distance-capable sex toy with simple, yet effective stimulation options may want to go for the more affordable Vibease. The Vibease is a discreet clitoral vibrator that can be worn under panties for direct, controllable stimulations.
All remote control is through the Vibease Chat app, which allows couples voice, text, and video interaction options as well as complete control of the Vibease toy. The simple on-board controls allow solo play with five different modes. Solo play through the app is always an option as well.
- Designed for LDR play
- Best app for long distance interactive play, built-in voice, text, and video… no need for Skype, Facetime, or any other apps
- Whisper quiet and can be worn discreetly under most clothing
- Lower power than other clitoral vibrators
- No interactive or connectivity option for partnered, pleasure play
7- We-Vibe Sync
The We-Vibe Sync is one of the most popular wearable sex toys, making it a great option for long distance sex play thanks to the extremely flexible and body-safe construction.
The Sync comes with a simple-to-use remote control that can be used at a short distance. What really pushes the Sync to the top and onto this list is the We-Connect app.
When the Sync is controlled with the We-Connect app, the wearer gets to experience real-time stimulation. The app also allows for some interesting solo play options with the Beat mode.
The Sync with vibrate in connection with music played through the app. Each of the two motors vibrates independently for an amazing, and hopefully orgasmic experience.
- Super quiet, wearable toy
- Provides a wide range of patterns and speeds to meet all stimulation needs
- Dual motors with independent vibrations
- The flexible design will fit most bodies, inside and out
- Comes with a convenient case, so it can go where you go
- Short distance physical remote
- No interactive connections
8- Lovense Ambi
Is it a Bullet? Is it an Egg? In reality, the Ambi is probably better than both. The one of a kind, hammer shape allows for some amazing possibilities and more control than any other clitoral vibrators.
Anyone who has ever tried to use a bullet vibrator for any kind of play, or even held one, will understand where they can be difficult to control.
A bullet has no contours or shapes to grip onto; when used with a penetration, not only are the things hard to hold onto, your hand will get in the way, more often than not, just trying to keep it in place.
The unique hammer shape means you have a handle to hold the Ambi just where you want it. That is not all. The Ambi has been specifically designed to match the three most common types of external contact that bring most female users’ pleasure.
The broad, flat head works great as a labia vibrator, providing a wide dense vibrating sensation. The hammer-shaped head features both a dull rounded end and a small pinpoint end, each able to deliver focused vibrations where ever you use it.
LDR couples only need to download the free and easy to use Lovense app for nearly unlimited control possibilities, including sound activation, music sync, and access to a huge library of vibration patterns.
- Powerful vibrations throughout the entire vibrator
- Unique hammer designs allow for several stimulation options
- Lovense Remote app
- Up to 2 hours of use on a single charge.
- The magnetic charger may be hard to connect
- App issues, similar to others, connection drops, lag time
The Importance of Sex in a Relationship
Sex is so much more than a process that leads to reproduction. People experience a wide range of benefits from sexual contact, including positive physical and emotional aspects. You may have heard a joke or two about sex is great exercise.
While sex alone will not help you drop a bunch of pounds or fit into those favorite skinny jeans. There are several bonuses, such as increased immune system, better sleep, and increases in all of the feel-good hormones.
It is surprising that virtual sex, using a combination of visual, physical, and audio stimulation can provide nearly all of the same physical benefits. So much so, that there is a growing number of physicians that are suggesting masturbation and other forms of sexual pleasure as a way to improve physical and emotional well-being.
It is never a shock when a couple that fails to maintain a healthy sexual relationship ends up with complicated or even failed relationships. Long distance relationships are at an even higher risk for sexual frustration being a fundamental cause of increased stress and lack of satisfaction.
Nearly 40% of LDR relationships end due to a lack of physical intimacy. Long distance sex toys help to provide a temporary solution to this common issue.
Most people still believe that women have a higher emotional connection to sexual activity than men. The reality is that individual of all sexes, sexual orientations, and sexual identities place a high value on an emotional connection with their sexual partners.
There is almost no difference across the different groups. What this means is that most people need to feel some type of connection with the people they are sexually active with to feel satisfied.
This does not mean that every sexual encounter must be a love-based relationship or even part of a casual relationship. What it means is that most people place as much importance, if not more, on an emotional connection that purely sexual satisfaction.
The great thing about emotion is that it can happen, and often be just as strong, if not stronger in some cases, without physical closeness.
Long distance relationships of all type are most successful when built on a foundation of great communication. Communication inevitably leads to a closer emotional connection over time.
Even long distance “friends with benefits” may find that they feel more connected to a partner some distance away than one that is physically near. Some claim this is just a result of wanting what we cannot have, or the old “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” you’ll have to decide.
Going Beyond the Ordinary – Long Distance Sex Toys and Orgasm Control
One of the largest growing consumer market for sex toys of all types is the alternative sexual lifestyle, (aka kink, aka BDSM, and a dozen other names), communities. Sex toys, like the ones here, provide some of these individuals with safe, and consensual ways to add to their sexual desires. One example of this is through orgasm control.
Orgasm control is a kink that some individuals receive pleasure from being the one controlled or the one doing the controlling. Without going into too much detail, it can be easy to understand how most of the toys listed above can be used to prolong, deny, or even speed up the sexual pleasure.
All of these types of actions can be considered a form of orgasm control and can be a fun and pleasurable experience between two (or more) consenting adults.
LDR Vs IRL
What is clear is that couples, partners, or even strangers can have amazing and satisfying sexual experiences that can have many of the same benefits as a traditional IRL (in real life) physical, sexual relationship.
While it may seem like long distance sex toys are expensive, or even over the top in terms of technology; most people claim the experience and benefits way outweigh the costs.
If you are reading this, chances are you are already in an LDR relationship and looking to spice things up or bring your fantasies into reality.
The amazing technology that the toys listed here bring to the table is a promising hint to what the future of sexual pleasure technology may have to offer. Sit for a moment and imagine what may be possible in the very near future. Pretty cool, huh?
Don’t get left behind dealing with boring, single-function sex toys that you have to control, or more accurately work hard, to get any amount of pleasure. Beg, borrow, or plead with your partner, significant other, or special friend to grab one (or more) of these titillating and orgasmic toys today!
We hope that you have found the information in this article helpful in choosing your first, or your next, long distance sex toy. Also be sure to check your internet service provider for stable connection speed, maybe even high-speed 4KHD streaming options.
We’d hate to hear that you were in the middle of enjoying yourself and your partner when your connection decided to slow down, or worse drop completely.